A natural result of dating detox is that you will have time and opportunity to work through the emotional baggage of past relationships. I'm very thankful to say that my last relationship ended about as well as one could. We liked each other, but both knew we weren't "forever", so we parted on amicable terms.
However, I certainly did/do have plenty of resentment to work through in other past relationships. By taking time out from looking for "the one" to fill the void, I have had to face and work through things that I have previously avoided by dating. Don't get me wrong- I think dating around is fun and healthy, generally speaking- but I was rowing my boat down the river of denial through looking for a fella (hence the immediate jump into online-dating).
O Magazine had a good article about forgiveness this month. I'm still working on it, to be sure, but I have remarkably felt myself starting to heal. It certainly is painful at times, but I'd much rather do it now than pour misdirected bitterness on the next man I date or others in my life.
This is definitely one of the messier parts of dating detox, but things that are difficult are also oftentimes the most worthwhile.
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